Soul Ties Meaning: 10 Signs, Types, And How To Break Them

After reading several publications on soul ties from different great writers, including psychologists and relationship gurus, I think it is necessary to share my view on this topic. Sincerely, I have been skeptical to jump on this because I don’t want to sound too spiritual but I realize there is a need to let you know the spiritual meaning of soul ties and their implication.

The urban dictionary defines soul ties as an emotional connection you have to someone after engaging in sexual intercourse.

Your dictionary describes soul ties as a metaphysical connection that is formed between two people after being close to each other.

Now, looking at these two definitions, you will notice they have something in common which is “connection”. One talks about sex the other did not. Before we go into in-depth into the meaning of soul ties, I want to ask you a question.

Have you ever been in a deep relationship without someone for years,  and you can’t and you can’t do without the person?

Yes, it has happened to me before, I was in a relationship with a lady for three years and we never had sex. I was in 99% and ready to do anything to go to any length for the relationship to work out. Unfortunately, it was one-sided, initially, she wasn’t feeling the way I felt.

Truly we didn’t have sex and yet it was toxic to me because I couldn’t let go, my soul was kinda tied to hers. I remembered one night that I almost had an accident because we had a misunderstanding and we both agreed to stay away from each other for a while.

Immediately I left her place, I couldn’t control my thoughts and feelings, different things running through my mind, including suicide. But thank God for His mercies, I overcame the toxicity.

That is a typical example of soul ties. No one can explain it better than those that were once involved. You can have soul ties with someone without having sex with the person just as in my case. I am writing this article based on my past experience and spirituality,  to help you understand soul ties toxicity and how to break it.

What Is The Meaning of Soul Ties?

Literally, a soul tie is a type of soul connection with someone in an extraordinary way. Your heart, mind, body spirit, and soul easily link with your partner beyond imagination. A Soul tie is far beyond a mutual feeling, it can be formed through actions and emotions, and sometimes it can be spiritual.

You can as well have a soul tie with a thing or place, not necessarily with a person. Do you remember not being able to do without a particular thing or a place? Soul ties change your perspective about people and the world.

Soul ties can affect you positively or negatively depending on how you perceive them. It can come with love, lust, or even pain. The love aspect is interesting, you wouldn’t want it to end anytime soon,  you will always want to be with him or her always. There will be an urge to go home immediately after the close from work, you don’t want to think about anything other than your partner. It will be as if you guys have known for ages even though you are just meeting each other.

Interestingly, it is very rare to find a soul tie, maybe once in a lifetime or you might never even come across one. Except If you are lucky, then,  great. It is a good feeling even though it can be dangerous when it is one-sided. If you are the only one having this connection and your partner is not reciprocating, then it is bad. Know the kind of soul ties you have, understand if it is a healthy or unhealthy soul tie.

How Soul Ties Is Formed

Soul tie does not just happen without connecting to the person physically, sexually, or spiritually. Before the bond is tally formed, there must have been a sort of link bringing the two of you together. Although there might be clothes ways, here are possible ways I know you can form a soul tie.

Spiritual

Spiritual soul ties can form in two ways, you can be spiritually connected to God and to a fellow human. Connecting to God spiritually brings you closer to Him and makes you want to always do His wish. It is a healthy connection for Christians, it helps you to develop your spiritual faith in the Lord. The second type of spiritual connection is the one you have with someone you love. At times, people connect spiritually before physical reflection.

This might sound odd but trust me, most things that you see happening to you in the physical, had already happened in the spirit realm. People’s soul connects together in the spirit even before seeing each other, it might sound mystical but that is the reality.

Do you know why you connect smoothly to someone you meet for the first time within a few seconds? You feel like you have known him for ages,  and you don’t want to let each other go. At times it is like you have seen the person before but in reality, you guys have not met anywhere. There is a spiritual connection, it happens even before you build intimacy with the person.

Your spirit connects with that person maybe you have some things in common in the spirit realm. Most times, you find yourself in a relationship with such a person without any of you asking each other out, and you will be wondering how it all happened. In most cases, people like this usually have a positive impact to play in your life, they mean no harm.

On the order hand, you need to take note of your feelings. If the emotions are sudden and one-sided, then it could be harmful. A soul connection with someone that is not feeling the same way is lust, it is called an unhealthy soul tie. If you are in unhealthy soul ties, your partner is not concerned about your feelings even when you are doing everything possible to put him on spot. Unhealthy soul ties can lead to an emotional breakdown, depression, and even suicide. If you find yourself in this triangle, read this article to know how to break it.

Sexually

Soul ties can also be formed through sex. Sex is a bond, the first sex after the wedding consummates the marriage, without sex in marriage, both of you are free. That shows how powerful sex can be. There is more to sex than the pleasure you derive, even the Bible is against sex before marriage.

During sexual intercourse, there are so many things you and your partner exchange spiritually because of the blood connection. We can say sex is another way of bonding or making a covenant with your spouse.  And blood covenant is not easily broken, it takes higher blood to break a blood covenant.

Jesus offered Himself as a sacrifice to save us from the old law, and that is one of the benefits of the Blood of Jesus Christ. Remember, soul ties mean bonding with someone, therefore, continuous sexual intercourse can form soul ties. Husband and wife can form soul ties through sex, the bond between them keeps getting stronger as they have sexual intercourse.

Research shows that couples look-alike after spending some time together due to different things they have transferred into each other. Soul ties between a husband and a woman are a healthy one, it strengthens your relationship, the love and affection will be shared equally. If you have a soul tie with your man or woman, no cause for alarm, support each other with prayers and enjoy the bonding.

When you are in a soul tie with someone that loves you, life will be beautiful, you wouldn’t want it to end, you will always feel like having more of the person. You will not want to wait for the arrival of your partner when he travels, you feel incomplete as if part of you is missing. That is a typical example of born of your bone and flesh of your flesh. It is a healthy soul tie because both of you are married.

Social Formation

The kind of soul tie you form at your office, malls, parks, school, church, or general gathering is a social type of soul tie. There are people you meet at a social gathering, the connection you have with them keeps bringing you back to the spot you met them. Have you ever seen yourself always wanting to be at work because of a particular colleague?

It happens in Church, I have seen people that attend Church service because of the person they always want to meet. Social formation usually occurs as a result of emotion shared during a conversation with your partner. If you have a colleague or friend that you always open up to whenever there is an issue, it is possible to form a soul tie with them. You see the person as your problem solver and your “run to” guy.

Different Types of Soul Ties

There are different types of soul ties: We have healthy and unhealthy soul ties, Godly and ungodly soul ties.

Healthy and Unhealthy Soul Ties

If you have been following by now you will understand what a healthy soul tie is. A soul tie can be healthy at the same time it can be toxic. A healthy soul tie will never cause you to pain instead it will bring unending love and peace of mind. While an unhealthy soul tie could bring tears, pain, heartbreak, and even depression.

An example of Healthy soul ties is the one you have with your spouse. A soul tie in marriage leads to strong bonding. The two of you are coming together to become one and there is a reciprocation of love. On the other hand, an unhealthy soul tie is a type that is usually one-sided, it can be formed spiritually, sexually, or even socially.

Most times the tie is formed as a result of lust and not love. It is possible for a man to have sex with a lady several times and still not love her, He is only satisfying his sexual urge. So, sex does not form a healthy soul tie all the time.

What Are Soul Ties In The Bible

I know you want to find out if soul tie is biblical right? Well, the phrase “soul tie” is not mentioned anywhere in the Bible. However, there are scriptural verses some people refer to in terms of soul ties.

1 Samuel 18:1 (NLT)  After David had finished talking with Saul, he met Jonathan, the king’s son. There was an immediate bond between them, for Jonathan loved David.

1 Corinthians 6:16 {NLT)And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself as a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”

Firstly, with the definition and formation of soul ties discussed above, and in my own view, the biblical references above do not really correlate with the meaning of a soul tie.

The sudden bond between Jonathan and Davide does not mean their soul are tied together, it is just an expression of their friendship.

Analyzing the 1 Corinthians 6:16 contextually explains the power of sex and its consequences. In order words, don’t have an affair with a prostitute if you don’t want to share things with her. Be careful of who you let into your life and the things you allow into your heart because they can cause either positive or negative impacts. It does not mean you are tied to her through sex.

I know the Holy Spirit gives us a different understanding and interpretation of the scripture, at the same time we should know that the Bible preaches against sex before marriage.

Although soul ties are not written in the bible, we can say it is a man-made phrase, but we cannot deny the spiritual facts about soul ties. Understanding yourself as a spirit being will open your eyes to a different perspective of life.

Now, have you ever asked yourself why some relationships work smoothly even when their partner does not have the luxuries of this life and the relationships that are built on wealth couldn’t see the light of the day? This shows that some things are not well understood until God opens your eyes. Soul ties exist but not in the way some people paint it, even though it is not biblically written.

Is Soul Tie Godly or UnGodly?

We’ll take a look at this scripturally. God designed marriage and love, and everything God created is good. Don’t forget, God commanded love in marriage and we should love our neighbor as ourselves. Loving your spouse in marriage is biblical and there is nothing wrong with it. If you are married and you find your soul tied to your partner when he travels, there is nothing bad about that, it is Godly.

In case of separation or divorce, I don’t think your soul is tied to your partner. Maybe the two of you don’t really want the divorce, or the love has always been one-sided since the inception of your relationship.

The ungodly soul tie is the bond that exists between you and someone you are not married to, and the love is one-sided. When you separate from the person, you see yourself thinking about him or her and you find it difficult to move on. Any relationship that is either sexually tying you to someone that is not your spouse or connecting you for some obvious reason is an ungodly or negative soul tie and needs to be broken.

How To Know That You Form Soul Ties

A godly or healthy soul tie does not have a negative impact, it brings love and peace of mind.  An unhealthy soul tie causes pain, trauma, depression, and stagnancy.  There is nothing bad about having a soul tie with your husband or wife, it bonds the family. But having a soul tie that does not lead to marriage, can have a negative impact on you.  Check the signs below to know if you have a soul tie.

10 Signs of Unhealthy Soul Ties

Feeling Obsessed

There is this feeling I had that I couldn’t explain then when I had a soul tie to someone. The thought of the person will dominate your mind 247, you can’t do anything without a memory of the time spent together. When you are feeling obsessed with your partner, it is a sign that you are having a soul tie with him.

Having Strong Connection

The kind of connection you feel with a soul tie is not the normal one in a relationship. The bond will be very strong that you can go extra mile for the person. You can do anything to make him or her happy, you are ready to share all you have without hesitation to be with him or her.

When Don’t Care People’s Opinion

Sincerely I don’t encourage third-party interference in the relationship but there are times you are lustful and blinded by love, then, you need someone to wake you up to reality. I remember a friend used to tell me that this Lady does not love me the way I do and she is not connecting. And he further this is a bad signal for marriage.

I heard him but ignored his advice, my parent’s advice would have made any meaning either because I was so determined. When you find yourself not thinking twice about people’s perception of your relationship, you might have likely formed a soul tie.

When You Don’t Complain At All

It takes two to tangle and respect is reciprocal. Love should be appreciated and not taken for granted whether in marriage or courtship. The strong affection you have for someone can influence your emotions and reaction towards them. You easily overlook the red flags instead of sorting them, you are scared he might fly up if you call his attention? My dear, it is wrong, you are enslaving yourself in the relationship. Speak out when necessary, don’t be scared, and iron things out with your partner.

When You Continue to Think About The Person

Another signal that indicates you are in a soul tie is the continuous thoughts and feelings you are having for the person. If you did not receive his calls within a few hours, you become restless and overwhelmed by your emotions. It can lead to distraction at work and make you lose concentration. You need to break the ties

When You Are The One Trying To Work Things Out

Forming soul ties can sometimes make you look foolish. Imagine catching your partner cheating on you and you still don’t care?  You are scared of losing him, you are apologizing when he is supposed to, he sees everything he is always Mr right. This is very unhealthy for you for your mental and emotional health.

When You Override Personal Interest For The Person

A lady was awarded a scholarship to study abroad for her Master’s degree program, she informed the guy she was dating then and the guy refused to consent to the trip. She obliged the guy’s decision in order to save her relationship. A few years later, the guy got a better job abroad, traveled, and abandon her to marry another lady. She was heartbroken when she heard the news, ever since then she has remained single.

When You Are Entraped And Don’t Know How To let Go

Leaving someone you formed soul ties is not that easy. I remember how I tried severally to stop talking to her my girl then, but I couldn’t let go. I deleted her phone number a couple of times because I don’t want to talk to her. But I still find a way to get it back. That’s how bad it can be to have a soul tie. Despite all the emotions she caused me, I kept going back until I finally broke the ties.

When You Leave Your Career/Business To Chase Love

Abandoning your God’s given purpose to be with some you think you are in love with is a sign of unhealthy soul ties. A relationship should not in away affect your vision negatively, in a healthy soul tie, the partner supports each other to achieve their dream. When you are carried away by what you called “affection”, thinking you have gotten it all, then that is a negative sign of soul ties.

When You Are Still Anxious After Noticing Red Flags

The last on pour list for the signs of soul ties is the anxiety to see him when he does not want to see you. You don’t care if he lay his hands on you or not or if he wants to be you. All you are after is to fulfill your anxiety ignoring the red flags. He tried so much to let you know he is no longer interested in having a relationship with you, still, you keep pushing hoping he might change his mind.

If you are experiencing any of the signs of soul ties listed above, there is a seventy-five percent tendency that you have formed a soul tie. You need to break it before it starts having a negative impact on you.  Want to know how to break a soul tie?  I will list the strategy that helped me below.

How To Break Unhealthy Soul Ties

Breaking soul ties is not that easy, it requires the grace of God, determination, and principles. Sincerely, I almost lost life when I had a soul tie. I felt like ending it all but the mercy of God says no.  The principles listed below helped me to break the unhealthy soul tie, and I’m sure it going to help you if you follow it duly.

5 Ways To Break Unhealthy Soul Ties

These five ways are the exact strategy I applied.  You might find other means online, but I assure you that these keys worked for me.

1. Acknowledge There Is A Challenge

First of all, you have to accept that you are not doing the right thing. Don’t put the blame on anyone,  seek a way out. A problem can never have a solution until it is identified. Acknowledge you have an unhealthy soul tie,  then seek for solution.

2. Pray To God

There is nothing God cannot do, and there is no challenges prayer cannot solve. Matthew 7:7  “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.

John 14:13: And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. Below are some powerful prayer points that can help you break the bondage of soul ties.

5 Prayer Points For Breaking Soul Ties

i. Father, I ask for forgiveness of sin, Oh Lord, have mercy on me. I know I have wronged you in many ways, Father please wash me with the Blood of Jesus. Make me whole again and help me to live according to your will.

ii. Heavenly Father, by the power in the blood of Jesus Christ, separate me from every ungodly and unhealthy soul tie. Break every covenant holding me captive into any satanic agreement.

iii. Father, wipe away every thought of lust, infatuation out of my mind and fill me your love. I come against the spirit of loneliness in my life, come out and let me go.

iv. Destroy every evil authority controlling my emotions and affection in Jesus’ name. I separate myself with the blood of Jesus Christ from every power of darkness assigned to have dominion over me,  lose your stronghold in my life in Jesus’ name. Oh Lord, by your power, I cast out every contrary spirit monitoring my affairs in Jesus’ name.

v. Father Lord, The bible says whosoever the son of God set free, is free indeed. I am free from every unhealthy and ungodly soul tie in Jesus’ mighty name. Pray these prayer points with faith, and the Lord will set you free. If you can fast, go into three days fasting and praying.

3. Disconnect Totally From The Person

The third guide to help you break unhealthy soul tie is by disconnecting all forms of communication. Delete his contacts, and avoid him totally. Be confident in yourself and start a new life.

4. Forgive Him And Forgive Yourself

It hurts to remember the sacrifices you made, and the pains you went through fr the relationship to work. Try to forgive him and forgive yourself also, forget about the move, try to let go and let God fix it.  Your past memory will only add salt to your injury. It can deprive you of greater opportunities ahead,  so accept your fate and move on.

5. Find A Soul Mate

This is one of the key strategies that helped me to recover from the trauma of soul ties. In fact, it saved me from depression. I opened up for friendship, it was not that easy though.  But I needed someone that could help me forget the bitter experience.

There is no way you will let him go if you are lonely, loneliness kills faster than anything. Look for someone to keep your company. It can be your siblings, your parent, or anyone that have the fear of God.  Pour out your feelings, it will help the healing process.

Do Soul Ties Affect Men?

Well, you should know the answer by now. Yes, it does. I am a man, and my story is real. Nobody is above emotional feeling, expression differs. As a human being, blood flows in your vein, it is possible to be spiritually trapped by love. Except you are filled with a higher spirit, which is the Holy Spirit.

My experience and understanding of spiritual things made me realize that I was in a soul ties. I almost fell into another a few years after but I quickly adjust and take the necessary precautions. Indeed, should ties can be one-sided.

Conclusion

Having Soul ties is a good thing in marriage but it is unhealthy if you are fornicating or committing adultery. There is nothing bad bonding with someone you feel connected to but is he the right person. Don’t allow anyone to toy with your emotions. Start the process of breaking all unhealthy and ungodly soul ties today and the Lord will see you through,

I hope you are blessed with this piece, your response in the comment section will motivate me to share more.

Please feel free to share with family and friends, it might save some from the bond of soul ties.

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