I have found the one my soul loves so much is one of the Songs of Solomon, also referred to as the Song of Songs, a book in the Bible written by King Solomon. It is a book full of love and romance, it is a book full of emotions and shows of affection.
The Book of Song of Solomon chapter 3 verse 4 is a phrase in the Bible that has meant a lot to those in love, those that God has directed to their loved ones, and to even those hoping to be loved. “I have found the one my soul loves so much” is a very popular phrase known to be used in weddings, and other places of love and affection.
You might be wondering why this kind of Bible verse would be in the Holy Bible, I will answer that question. Our God is a God of love and he wholeheartedly supports love. God is not what some believers see him to be, seeing God as one who is so mean and wicked is so funny and not true.
He is a God of love and he wishes that we find the ones we love with our whole heart, and when we find them, we should hold them and never let go. The best thing to happen to a man is to find the one his soul truly loves, the one that was specially made for him.
Do you know that a good number of believers will not be able to get married again in life, not because they are not beautiful, but because they have let go of the one God had kept for them? Less I forget, there is a man to every woman on earth, and vice versa.
Oftentimes, I wonder why Song of Songs is in the Holy Bible when all it talks about is love, romance, something sexual etc. In my course of research, I got an answer I will like to share with you in this article. Keep your head up, engage in this article and you will be very happy you did.
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The Song of Solomon
The book of Song of Solomon also known as Song of Songs is a portion in the Holy Bible that was written down by the man we know and honour so much in the history of the world. Solomon, the father of David. Solomon was seen as the wisest man the world ever had, he was the man God had endowed with so much wisdom that he was able to rule perfectly. To this day according to the Holy Bible, there is none as wise as King Solomon was.
The Book of Song of Solomon is a scriptural reference in the Holy Bible that does not talk about the spirituality of men, prophecies etc. Rather, it is focused on love, and romance. Going through the book of Song of Solomon, one will discover that it is a dialogue between two lovers, those who are passionate about themselves and are ready to allow love to have a say in their lives.
Growing up, I hated to go through the portion of the Bible, not because I hated the Bible, but because I was it is corruptible. I am still happy I did not engage then because it would have had a greater effect on me as a believer then, not because it was bad, but because I was not grown mentally to know what this meant and who they were for.
Song of Songs has eight chapters, going through it from chapter one, one will discover that it is about romance. Chapter one talks about kissing a lover with a Holy kiss. One may ask, is there a Holy kiss? I will answer you and say yes, there is. A kiss between the one your soul loves, and God supports the love.
God can only support a relationship if it is done right.
What Song of Songs Is Not
This is to make it clear to you that God does not support immorality. Hence, he would not want you to get backing from his Holy book to sin against him. In this part of the article, we will be focused on telling you what the Song of Solomon is not or does not support. This is for the benefit of parents who would want to guide their children against the trick of Satan against their righteous living.
Let me tell you a story, long time ago during my High School days, I had a lot of friends who I will say we’re exposed to immoral acts early in life, they would talk about sex in their ten and twelve years, and some of them were already engaging in sexual immoralities as at then.
When I tried to engage them in conversations to know how it all happened, I was shocked to hear that the majority of them justified the act because they felt it was seen in the Bible.
Let me tell you something, God is not against love and even sex, but he is against sex outside marriage. This is to say that there is time for everything including romance. As the bible has said in Ecclesiastes 3:1, there is time and seasons for everything under the heavens. The young ones I was talking about misused the Scripture because they were exposed to it at a very tender age.
Song of Solomon is a Scripture to show that God supports love, romance and even sex, if done right and at an appointed time.
People, especially non-believers and critics of the Bible often try to criticize the writer of this Bible verse, accusing him of corruption and introducing sexual content to the Bible, this criticism to me is wrong. As a believer, religion should not make you start believing that God does not support love or romance, he does. He does when you are both married. It is the will of God for us to get married, getting married will help us to fulfil the scripture that says that we should go into the world and multiply.
Songs of Solomon is not a pornographic hub which people feel should be used carnally, this is a wrong notion about the Song of Solomon. It is mostly recited during weddings to expose them to the dimension of love, and to make them know that God is not against their union as couples.
Theological studies have tried to make us know that, though Solomon uses sexual statements in the writing, it is an allegory. This means that it is all the statements in the Book, he tries to physically talk about a sexual relationship but means some other thing in the main sense. According to theologians, the lover in the Book represents God, while the Beloved here represents the children of God who God loves.
There is a problem with this approach, the problem here is that, if you go through the Book of Song of Solomon, you will find out that the words used by the Lover and Beloved portrayed a real sexual relationship, going through the verses, one will find out that it talks more about longing to see each other and planning to spend time kissing each other. This looks sexual enough.
Instead of taking this approach, I sometimes feel that Solomon is the wisest man in the world, and a man who used his pearls of wisdom to build was using this medium to talk about real love, I feel he was trying to address two lovers who were passionate about themselves. In whichever way, let us see this book as one that exposes us to the dimension of God being in support of love and sexual relationships if done in a way that pleases God.
I Have Found The One My Soul Loves – Song of Solomon 3:4
The Bible says “It was but a little that I passed from them, but I found him whom my soul loves: I held him, and would not let him go, until I had brought him into my mother’s house, and into the chamber of her that conceived me.” This phrase as much as I know is very popular in Christian weddings, the words are mostly recited as a word of love.
After a careful study of this Bible verse, I realize that love is not cheap, the primary actor in the verse as written there was longing to see the one his heart loves, it was not easy at first. To find genuine love is sometimes scarce. But determination helps.
Let us start from verse one of the scripture. A life without being loved is the worst kind of life to live, talking about the bride, she woke up on her bed and discovered that the one whom her soul loves was nowhere to be found. According to the Bible verse, we learnt the following:
Love takes Risk: The journey of looking for who your heart or your soul truly loves is risky. In verses one and two of that Bible portion, the lover woke up and discovered that the love of her soul was nowhere to be found. Not minding the danger in the night, she stepped out to go look for her love. Let us take it out of romance.
Jesus Christ being our lover also makes the same sacrifice to us, he always makes sure he goes to any length to find us and bring us back to himself. For love to be found, you must take that risky step of going out to find whom you love. Before you go, pray to the Holy Spirit to direct you so as not to make a mistake or wrong choice.
The worst nightmare is loving someone who is never there for you: Loving someone who is not always there for us is very painful. Christ goes thus this too, he loves us so dearly, but we are not always there for him whenever he needs us. This is so saddening.
God is not against romance: It is funny how some believers believe that romance is of the Devil, some of them believe that they will please God more if they stay away from it. God is in support of it, that is if it is done at the right time.
There is a man for every woman to love and vice versa: What I will advise you is to always pray to God to help you know, there is a man for every woman and man on earth, you will not be fulfilled if you do not find that person God has kept for you. I pray that God helps you to find that person he keeps for you.
Finding genuine love might not be so easy, but do not give up: As I was reading through verse four, I realized something, she did not give up so quickly. A good number of relationships and marriages fail because of this act of giving up easily, this should not be the case.
We need to use Christ as a role model he has never given up on us no matter what happens, he always comes through for us. This is because he loves us genuinely. This should be the action of anybody desiring genuine love. It might not be easy at the beginning of it all, but please, take this from me, love will come your way one day as fast as you do not give up and you also pray that it comes.
Reflect on the verse again, you will see the risk she took, waking up in the middle of the night and heading to the street to look for someone she was not sure she was going to find. Do you not think it was an act of faith? I sincerely believe it was.
When you find the Love of your soul, hold them and never let go: I felt so happy at the point in which she was able to find the one she loves. It did not end with her finding him, she held him, never to let him go again. She took him to her mother’s house and made him hers forever.
Songs of Solomon 3:4 in today’s marriage and relationships
Today, we have known so well that loving someone is risky. When in love genuinely, we can go to any length to make sure it works out for us. We go out to look for whom to marry, and in the journey of finding, we might tend to meet people on the road who may want to discourage us. Some feel discouraged, sit down and lament feeling like love is not for them, some run into depression and later end it. Those who persist and seek God’s help find their love again.
At the stage of finding love, he keeps her and takes her to Church to be wedded.
This is supposed to be the story of the children of God. But unfortunately, Satan has made it not always happen that way, he has made a lot of believers give up so early in love and they later live to regret it in life. We need to do something urgently to make sure Satan has no authority over our love and marriages.
Prayer for Marriages and Godly Relationships
1. Father Lord, I thank you for everything you have done for me and my family members, I thank you for me this far in life, let your name be praised.
2. Lord in your name, I confess my sins to you, wash me to be white again in Jesus’ name.
3. I shall find love again in the name of Jesus Christ
4. The Devil is not permitted to stop me from finding the love of my Soul in the name of Jesus Christ.
5. I shall be fruitful and multiply here on earth in the name of Jesus Christ.
Conclusion
The phrase, “I have found the one my soul loves so much” is a very popular phrase in the Book of Song of Solomon, it shows that the journey to finding love is not as easy as it sounds, but with God on our side, we can do it. Go out and find whom you love, when you find them, keep them safe and never let them go again. “I have found the one my soul loves so much” has shown us that God is in support of love and God himself is love.
Thank you for reading through, kindly tell us what you also feel about this phrase “I have found the one my soul loves so much” according to Song of Solomon 3:4.
